Activities From ‘The particular Flow’ (four) – Dropped Together with Located – Meant To help Turn out to be?

“Prosperity: The eternal stream of all that is good in existence…”

*Beneath is the fourth episode in a sequence of real life activities seasoned by the writer. The only deviations from the truth may possibly be the names of individuals and areas.

Mutually rejoice the triumphs, my close friends. And marvel at the benevolence of the all-knowing, First Compound (God, the Universe, the 1, and so on.).

In “Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (1), (2), and (three)”, I went via heartbreak, worked previous the distress, finished a Grief Letter, liked a partial restoration, relapsed, and then experienced an amazing face with a impressive girl named Songsana (a beautiful Asian Information Reporter).

The uncanny resemblance between Songsana and the principal feminine character in the guide “My Friend Yu – The Prosperity Mentor” – a e-book I wrote more than six months PRIOR to meeting Songsana – is a delightful mystery to me.

Luck? Perhaps. Fate? Most likely (ideally).

– THE Research, THE DESPAIR –

It was the day right after the Substantial College Athletics celebration.

Meeting Songsana yesterday was specifically what I required to cure my relapse into post-breakup despair.

But it was a bitter/sweet encounter.
I was even now offended (at myself). I could kick myself for leaving her at the Stadium with out exchanging speak to info.

I could not contact her. And I didn’t know in which she and her Information Crew had been keeping in Thailand. I couldn’t even contact her right after she returned back to her residence place (Vietnam).

I made the decision to lookup the net for some way, any way to speak to her.

All day – in among courses – at function, I Googled every permutation of her title that I could feel of her country’s information stations, the mum or dad German News Company that owned her news demonstrate furthermore the “Data” and “Yellow Webpages” of Vietnam. Zilch, nada – nothing at all.

All tries at obtaining Songsana on the internet proved futile.

Discouraged, I couldn’t believe of any other way to locate her and was compelled to give up the lookup.

“This will be THE Largest One particular THAT Obtained Away!” I considered.

I was resigned to my fate.

And sullen, I recognized the circumstance: There’s no way to find Songsana and I will probably never ever see her once again.

That night, I did an extra extended treadmill run and fat work out. It helped me offer with my disappointment and disappointment more than the “Research for Songsana debacle”…


Whenever I believe it truly is hopeless, the Universe often actions in. The impossible gets feasible, despair turns into hope, and adore shines by way of the clouds. And with its benevolent, gentle hand I’m nudged back again on course in the direction of my destiny, my own personalized path.

Carl “J.C.” Pantejo (Dec 2007)

…Following exercising to pre-exhaustion and rehydrating with copious amounts of beer, I managed to collapse into a semi-coma, sleeping well into the early morning.

The good news is, I had enough forethought to established my clock, T.V., and cellular mobile phone alarms just before my sole drinking session commenced previous evening. Soon after permitting the alarms audio off for a very good 5 minutes, I dragged myself out of mattress, gulped down two cups of java, showered, shaved, dressed, hopped on my motorcycle, and manufactured it to work with three minutes to spare.

Though I did not have a undesirable hangover, I nonetheless felt a little weak and wobbly – like an alien experienced sucked the life drive out of me.

And I was starving.

Most of my colleagues ended up previously instructing, but nowadays I had the very first period of time off – perfect for consuming a gradual, relaxing breakfast. Slogging down to the school cafeteria, I purchased a typical Thai breakfast (spicy, fried hamburger, peppers, string beans, eggs, and rice).

I slipped into the teachers’ lounge/dining room. It was previously total of Thai instructors chatting away at every single other, lazily taking pleasure in their bowls of soup, rice, and plates of veggies and fruit. They have been utilised to me and acknowledged me with a respectful “Wai” (palms with each other, prayer like, and touching the thumbs to the chin) or merely nodded. Then they went back to their chatter.

– THE MIRACLES Keep on –

I do not like eating alone, so I scanned the dining location to see if any of my close friends had a class canceled and made the decision to try to eat breakfast.

Then, at the other finish of the eating room, I observed the back of a person new. When she turned and spoke to the particular person sitting next to her, I observed the profile of her face. I blinked twice and did a “Double Just take.”

I should be hallucinating!

Like a zombie with tunnel eyesight, I slowly and gradually rose from my chair and walked unobtrusively towards the “apparition.”

“Songsana? Is that you?” I said tentatively.

“J.C.! There you are! I was below at your college yesterday, but I couldn’t uncover you. We are (the Information Crew) getting some footage of Takraw (the popular “volleyball-by-foot” sport of Asia) apply,” she explained, with her trademark, golden smile and prolonged hand.

With a shocked search (and gaping mouth), I shook her hand with equally of mine – all the even though hardly believing that she was below!

Stuttering like one of my Large School students, I mentioned, “I didn’t give you my variety at the Athletics Stadium. I…uh…searched the internet all day yesterday for some way to speak to you, but nothing at all arrived up. I attempted every search term I could consider of. But…I…umm…in any case, I am so content to see you! I considered that I’d never…effectively…I gave up on…Oh hell, can I have your e-mail or mobile phone quantity?”

“Sure. This is my company card,” she stated.

Glancing at it, I could see her operate and telephone quantities, her e-mail handle, and her company’s emblem.

“This is my second possibility. I am not getting rid of this!”

Smiling, I slipped her card into my shirt pocket, pressed it challenging in opposition to my coronary heart, and winked at Songsana.

She giggled and smiled.

“Many thanks Songsana. I would enjoy to sit down and discuss, but I have to go instruct now. Maybe we can hook up prior to the workday’s above? If not, I will contact or e-mail you real before long, okay?” I stated, grinning from ear-to-ear. (I know my encounter must’ve been flushed.)

“Jeez! I’m emotion like a 17 12 months old child once more!” I considered.

“Alright. See ya,” she explained, cheerfully.

It wasn’t until then that I understood that everybody in the area – Thai teachers and Digital camera Crew alike – had stopped consuming and chatting to observe the reunion in between Songsana and me. When we finished our dialogue the entire dining area was silent, with all eyes on us. The look of surprise/confusion was painted on all of their faces.

I wasn’t humiliated at all. To me, this 2nd, unplanned meeting was a blatant signal from the Universe. I truly believed that, for some explanation, Songsana and I have been supposed to cross paths (and not shed touch with every other)…

– MURPHY’S Regulation –

“Murphy’s Law: What CAN go wrong, WILL go improper!”

…I went about my typical instructing day on Cloud nine. All my pupils noticed how pleased I was. Some of the much more playful (and insightful) types had been spot on, hitting the nail on the head with feedback like “Oooo-ooh, teacher has a new girlfriend.”

Effectively conscious of my latest “find/decline/uncover” expertise, all my buddies chided me, declaring that I usually experienced all the luck – particularly with really like and women.

Sadly, Songsana and I experienced full schedules. We smiled and waved to every other as I went from class to course and she went from job interview to interview. We both were so active that much more time jointly today would probably be extremely hard.

But that was okay. I planned to contact her as before long as I acquired house. Then we could talk (or meet up with) privately.

Soon after a active workday and a rapid training, I identified myself at house rifling via my gymnasium bag for the shirt with Songsana’s company card. Discovering it, I put it on my personal computer desk. As a backup, I wished to enter the info into my laptop computer. Whilst it was booting up, I went to the fridge and grabbed a beer. I returned to the notebook and entered the organization card’s data.

Getting into the data, I recognized that all the get in touch with figures ended up intercontinental cellphone numbers – no nearby, Thailand quantities.

“No worries. I am going to just e-mail her,” I believed.

I wrote a good “Hi there, How are you? This is my phone variety” e-mail and pressed the deliver essential. Thinking all was nicely, I sat back and ongoing to consume my beer. My brain was filled with hundreds of concerns for her.

Then it happened.

A “Warning: Mail Supply Failure” information appeared on my display. I pulled up the recently sent e-mail, rechecked and retyped Songsana’s e-mail handle and sent it yet again – very same, very same: “Warning: Mail Delivery Failure.” I logged on to an alternate e-mail service and tried out once more.

No joy.

FOR PETE’S SAKE! I’ve Dropped HER Yet again! Possibly FOR Excellent THIS TIME!

Now I was truly indignant. Rather of rushing off to course this morning, why failed to I at the very least scribble my quantity on a napkin for Songsana? Why didn’t give her my amount throughout our 3 “drive-by’s” in the hallway right now?

This sucks!

I referred to as all the numbers on the company card.

No dice. Most of the numbers ended up not answered – including Songsana’s home variety. There was a single line answered, but the person on the other stop spoke no English (and I never converse Vietnamese).

This Truly SUCKS!

Sensation forlorn, I permitted negativity to set in. Possibly I was mistaken? Perhaps we Were not intended to get to know each and every other afterall? Possibly this Obtaining-Getting rid of-Locating, then Losing once more sport was the Universe’s sick concept of a joke?

Because I failed to know when and exactly where Songsana would be in the course of the relaxation of her assignment in Thailand, my only recourse was to wait right up until she returned house (all around Christmas, five weeks absent) and consider to achieve her making use of the worldwide home telephone number on the business card.

“Hell, if that does not work, I am going to just display up in her metropolis on my subsequent extended weekend and ask close to for her!”

And with that believed, I recognized that I would dropped Songsana Again!


It experienced been a handful of days given that my mobile phone and e-mail failures. I was busy getting completely ready to go educate my Adult English class held on Sunday afternoons at a nearby Language Institute.

Then my cellular mobile phone rang. It was my friend Ed (another overseas English trainer at the Higher University). Ed was a close good friend. He understood the entire Located/Lost and so forth. story.

“Hey J.C. How are you? Hear, I might be mistaken, but I listened to from one particular of our Thai lecturers that there is a Takraw match among our college and a Vietnamese school someday this weekend. I’m not positive if it was yesterday or these days. And I do not know the time it really is meant to happen either. Anyway, I thought you’d like to know,” Ed explained – attempting to instill some sort of hope.

“Many thanks a good deal buddy. I will check it out on the way to my Sunday task,” I explained (politely, but with not considerably enthusiasm).

In Thailand colleges, particularly Govt schools, rumored- and even “hard scheduled” – functions hardly ever materialized as planned. All items at the faculty appeared to move forward in accordance to the whim of the school’s Principal and govt staff. Us “grunts” (the academics) have been routinely still left in the darkish right up until the previous next.

Oh, what the hell. I guess it couldn’t harm to depart 20 minutes early and move by the faculty – just in situation.


Driving up to the school, I didn’t see a lot fanfare heading on. I parked my motorbike and walked to the sporting activities constructing.

Outside the house was no evidence of any eminent, huge sports activities match.

The parking lot wasn’t full. I could listen to no cheering from the leading floor basketball/badminton/Takraw courts. No households and friends of gamers were loitering close to the close by food stalls.

Right away outside the house the constructing was a booth for authorities voting registration. Within, on the very first floor, was a very vocal PTA conference (as usual, there was a heated debate heading on amongst a instructor and a parent).

With no elevators in this 5-story constructing, I was wondering if the climb to the prime floor was well worth it.

I determined that given that I’d occur this much, I must at the very least make doubly certain that: one) There really is no Takraw match and 2) Songsana and the Camera Crew were prolonged gone (probably covering another higher-profile event).

On the way up the stairs, I observed some of my learners. I tried to question them if there was any sports event these days, but their rudimentary English skills (and my lame Thai language abilities) prevented any significant communication between us.

Achieving the fourth ground, I was beginning to feel that I was losing my time.

I stomped up the previous flight of stairs and was met by one more 3 learners.

They all gave me a respectful Wai and one particular of them mentioned, “Great morning teacher. Likely to view the Takraw match today?”

“No, I have to educate at one more spot before long. But is the Global News Crew from Vietnam listed here these days?” I asked.

“Mai Roo (I will not know),” they explained (in unison).

Walking into the gymnasium, I observed a couple of Bodily Training academics assembling the Takraw nets.

“When is the sport?” I questioned.

“Bai nueng (one:00PM). Gin kao (Did you eat/Have you eaten?).”

“Mai chai (no). Tang gnarm (functioning/Likely to function),” I said.

– Miracle Amount 3: One particular A lot more TIME –

Songsana walked in from the fifth storey balcony. The sunlight behind her developed a halo impact, making her seem more angelic than standard.

Making an attempt not to sound determined (and failing miserably), I said, “Songsana! Thank God, you happen to be listed here. I couldn’t ship any e-mail messages to the handle on your organization card. And I do not have a neighborhood mobile phone variety for you. Here is MINE!” Then I quickly scribbled my mobile phone variety and e-mail deal with on the back of an outdated seven-11 receipt from the base of my gymnasium bag and handed it to her.

“Sorry. Occasionally the enterprise e-mail deal with will get screwed up – way too considerably SPAM, I guess. In any case, many thanks for your variety. Are you keeping to view the sport? We’re shooting the final scenes for our documentary these days,” she mentioned, trying to conceal her exhilaration about looking at me yet again – and failing miserably as well. The smile was authentic and gorgeous.

Regaining a minor of my composure back, I stated, “No. I’m sorry. I have to go to my weekend training task now. Remember to, please don’t lose my quantity and e-mail handle!”

Then I hurried off to the Adult English course.

I arrived at the Language Institute a tiny late, but it did not make a difference. I experienced found Songsana – Yet again.

– Satisfied ENDINGS – Cannot Count THE MIRACLES –

In the course of a crack in the Adult English course, I seemed at my mobile cellphone.

There was one information: “Hello J.C. It truly is me Songsana. This is my neighborhood quantity whilst I am in Thailand. It was wonderful to see you once more these days. Sorry we failed to have time to discuss. Here is my individual e-mail tackle…”

(EPILOGUE: I can not depend the miracles. I misplaced and discovered Songsana numerous moments. But the Universe would not let me to get rid of her without end nudging me back in the direction of her each time I strayed off training course.

This story has a satisfied ending. She is hectic with her T.V. and News profession and I am occupied fulfilling my educating contract. To this working day, Songsana and I textual content, e-mail, and call every single other on a day-to-day foundation. We program on receiving together really, extremely quickly…)

Your Good friend in this Intrepid Journey referred to as Existence,

Carl “J.C.” Pantejo

“Until up coming time, uncover ‘The Flow’ and jump in!”

interactions, fate, opportunity, the Circulation, search, Googled, Murphy’s Legislation, Universe, miracles, misplaced, discovered.

Notice: If you want to read far more about conquering heartbreak, unconditional love, exorcising earlier personal demons, and the Illusive Magic formula of Pleasure, please go through the following articles:

“Ordeals from ‘The Flow’: From Heartbreak to Contentment”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (two): Coincidence or Synchronicity: FROM RELAPSE TO MIRACLES…”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (3): Misplaced AND Discovered – Kindred Spirits and Errors created in Haste.”

“How Dare She! Out of Desperation I Realized How to Forgive”

“Bear in mind Who You Are!”

“Need to have to Mend Your Broken Coronary heart? Read through on. Overcome Heartbreak and Find out the Illusive Key of Pleasure.”

By Carl “J.C.” Pantejo, Copyright December 2007

He is a retired U.S. Navy veteran. Believing that faculty was way too boring, he dropped out of High College early only to receive an A.A., B.S., and MBA in significantly less than 4 years considerably later on in daily life – although working complete-time as a Navy/Marine Corps Medic. In spite of a concern of heights and deep h2o, he free-slide parachuted out of airplanes and done diving ops in really deep, open ocean water. He went to Thailand 2 years ago for a week’s vacation, fell into a instructing occupation, and has in no way left!

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